One of the big reasons that “picking up” girls is so hard for many for guys is because they believe that they have to impress a girl and make her literally fall for them with the very first thing they say. In other words, these guys think that their pick-up line must be some kind of magic expression that would sweep a girl off her feet, when in fact – the opposite is true. You do not and should not try to say anything overly special to a girl to start a good, interesting conversation that may lead to an attraction between the two of you later. You are much better off starting a conversation by saying something interesting and/or thought provoking – whatever it is.
One of the things that I really like about New York City is that you can be cynical, bitter and talk like a “hater” and you will likely not be perceived as such as it’s common for people to express their opinions in a pretty direct way. My friend took advantage of this great “freedom” today at one of the premier clubs in the city. He was standing next to this girl and said: “God, this dj sucks!!!!” She looked at him and responded: “I am with you, if I could give this place a negative star, I would… this place has gotten downhill pretty badly in the last year…” They started laughing and continued talking an dancing into the late hours of the night
Of course, a negative observation won’t always work as a pick-up line, but if you say what you really think and the girl actually responds to it in a way that would suggest that she sees what you see, this is a great way to start a conversation as it suggests that you have some mental chemistry right away and that you might be interesting to each other.
“This dj sucks” won’t qualify as some kind of magic pick-up line that would be charged with romance and would make a girl fall in love with a guy, by any stretch of imagination, but that’s not the purpose of the pick-up line. The purpose is to simply break the ice, and preferably say something thought provoking that would make a girl eager to respond and express her own
opinion. This is how any interesting conversation starts between two people, including the pick-up.
Some men find it extra challenging to seduce a foreign woman. That can be nice way to show off in front of your friends or make you think youll get something different. You can also make her feel comfortable and ask to show you around that might be usual pick up line, but they still work. Important thing is not to try not to fall in love, since she is going back wherever she came from. That kind of relationship wont last, especially if you have no idea whether you are going to see her again of not.
It can sometimes seem impossible, but picking up women doesn't have to be. You might feel like you don't have the confidence, or that nothing you do ever works to attract a woman. First impressions are everything to women, so the below tips will help you make great when you are picking up woman.
Avoid pick up lines entirely. These cheap and nasty pick up lines are only going to turn her off, because she doesn't want to be "picked up", she wants to be spoken with and she wants to remain in control. If a woman suspects that she is being taken advantage of with a pick up line, she will instantly reject you. The best pick up line that you can possibly use is a simple hello.
Show her that you are friendly by smiling often. A simple smile is a great way to show her that you are a friendly man who just wants to talk to her, try making this a habit with any woman you find attractive.
Never stare at a woman's breasts when you are talking to her.
This is one of the worst things that you can do, because if you were caught then she is just going to think you are a jerk. Maintain eye contact the entire time you are talking to a woman, no matter how revealing her shirt might be. Making a woman laugh is a great bonus that you can add to any first encounter. Women love a man who can make her laugh.
Picking up women can be very easy. Before approaching a woman, make sure that you think of things from her perspective, and follow the above listed steps so that you can make the best possible first impression that you can.
